Your twenties are one of the most important years of your young life. No longer are you chained to the routine of high school and the rules of your parents. You’re free to choose your life path whether that be getting a job, enrolling in university or starting a family.
Hell, you don’t even have to do any of those things, perhaps you’ll choose to spend your twenties travelling or playing playstation in your parents basement – the fact is that this is the first time in your life that you get full control over your world.
Here are ten truths you will learn in your twenties..
1) Loneliness is real and it will sneak up on you if you let it
You leave high school with fifty friends, by the time you graduate from university the list has narrowed down to fifteen. By the time you enter your mid twenties the number could be anyone’s guess.
You’ll get distracted with work, partners, families and alone time and soon you may find yourself feeling lonely, unappreciated and find it very difficult to make new friends or reconnect with old ones.
It’s important early on to recognise that it will be hard to maintain all of your friendships as you battle your way through your twenties. Pick those who respect, encourage and love you to make time for, otherwise one day you will find yourself feeling incredibly alone.
2) Life moves faster the older you get
You’ll begin to notice the passing off time more frequently and regret wasting time on unimportant things or spending too much time watching television. Now is the time to advance on your goals, travel, live passionately and venture beyond your computer screen – time stops for no man.
3) Getting rich is not as easy as you thought it would be.
When you were in highschool you imagined you’d be driving a bently at the age of twenty-one. Around comes twenty-one and you’ve only just completed your degree – chances are you’re broke, undervalued at work and driving a twenty year old comodore.
Making real money takes time (or luck) and it’s just not as easy as we all thought it would be.
4) You are in control of your own destiny.
Nobody is here to motivate you. Your parents may nag and your partner may complain but it is 100% up to you to take control of your life and work towards improvement.
Don’t just set plans, go after them; and don’t accept misery, chase happiness with every ounce of your body.
5) Real life has real consequences.
If you stole something from a store in high school you’d get a stern talking to, if you do the same as an adult you just may spend the night in jail. In your twenties your no longer too young to face serious consequences.
The same goes for credit cards, remember you’re no longer spending your parents money. Debt can haunt you for a long time so think about the repercussions of your actions.
6) Jealously is the most useless emotion in the world.
As you get older you begin to realize that wanting what others have is the biggest waste of time in the world. There will always be someone skinnier, smarter or more beautiful than you – ignore these feelings of resentment and learn to love yourself the way you are. You’re stuck with yourself after all.
7) Your parents and grandparents will not be around forever.
Death is a real and certain part of life and we often forget that those older than us will not be around forever.
Remember to spend time with your family while you can and learn to appreciate your parents for all that they have given you growing up and all that they are as people. As you age the power balance shifts and you now have the opportunity to have a more equal and grown up relationship with them, you’ll start to appreciate this as you get older – start early.
8) Compassion is your greatest gift.
At this point in your life you will have become well aware of the fact that anyone can put up a happy facade to hide their true feelings, you may have done this yourself. Remember this before you yell at your waitress for messing up your order or ignore a friend or family member who has begin to become needy or has lashed out at you.
You no longer have peer pressure to blame for being a bitch so understand you could be the tipping point in someone’s day for better or for worse, so think carefully before you treat someone badly.
9) You can’t please everyone.
Stop dumbing down your ambitions because you think others will put you down, don’t reject what may be your perfect partner because you’re scared of what your friends or family may think, and don’t change yourself to impress people who won’t like you anyway.
You will never please everyone and in trying to you will make yourself miserable. Live life on your terms, follow your dreams and remember that those who matter wont care, and those who care don’t matter.
10) And finally, relationships are hard work.
Once you reach your twenties you’ll quickly realize that everyone is being pulled in different directions and your partner may be one of those people. Learn to compromise and put in the effort or let go, you’ll save yourself a lot of time wasted on arguments and sleepless nights.
I hope you enjoyed this type of post and I’ll be adding these to the blog more frequently over the year as I enjoyed writing it. Do you agree with what I’ve written here, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
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Cover & pin Image by Taylor Bri, text & crop added by Seilt